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#1 Skill Needed for Emotional Wellness
Find helpful tips, insightful videos, and words of wisdom to guide you on your journey towards a more peaceful emotional life.
Sol TV
March 16, 2023
This Newsletter at a Glance:
💡 The #1 Skill We All Need—And Why
🧠 Sol Bites: 3 Steps to Validate Your Emotions
🎥 Video Bite: Jenny Jay on How to Acknowledge Your Emotions
📝 TL/DR: Why Validation Is a Practice, Not a Disagreement
🎓 Words of Wisdom
 | Validation is the most critical skill for improving your emotional health and resilience. Accepting that your feelings are real and legitimate prevents you from making the fundamental mistake of ignoring or suppressing them. |
Think about it this way: Avoiding painful feelings may provide temporary relief in the present, but it can lead to complicated emotional pain in the future.
For example, when you’re sad, you might distract yourself with social media or a bottle of wine. Sadness can't hurt you, but if you continue to ignore the feeling, the next time you’re down, you may not only be sad, but you’ll also feel shame and embarrassment about how you handled things. Piling one emotion on top of another will just make matters worse.
Sol Bites 🤏
3 Steps to Validate Negative Emotions ✅💭
How can you be willing to feel emotions instead of avoiding them? Start here:
Step 1: Acknowledge that you’re feeling bad. 💔
Note when you feel bad, notice its different shades and keep track of those experiences in a 📓notebook or 📱phone. This will help you build emotional awareness.
Step 2: Articulate emotions with plain, straightforward language. 💬
A helpful way to do this is to use "I feel" statements. For example, when someone asks how you are, you could answer, "I feel anxious,😟" "I feel annoyed," or "I feel mostly sad 😔 but also a little relieved." This helps your brain understand that even though you don't like the feeling, you're not afraid of it.
Step 3: Treat yourself with compassion. ❤️
Compassion can sound complex or intimidating, but it is simply an act of kindness (and not self-indulgence). Remind yourself that it's normal to feel bad sometimes and that your feelings make sense. Acknowledge and accept your emotions rather than judging yourself for having them.
🎞️ Video Bite
Meet Jenny Jay, Sol TV Creator and talented storyteller. With years of experience in photography, videography, and content creation, Jenny is passionate about helping others tell their unique stories. In this video, she shares her expert tips on how to acknowledge and navigate our emotions.
🧘♀️ TL/DR: Why validation is a practice, not a disagreement
Validating your emotions is not a disagreement; it's a practice.
People often resist validating their emotions because they think it’s silly—you already know how you feel, so why go the extra step and substantiate them?
But simply understanding something intellectually is different from genuinely experiencing it. It’s just like when someone says, “I love you.” It’s important to hear it and feel it.
There is power in articulating how you feel because it helps create a calmer, more peaceful emotional life.
💡 Words of wisdom
Repressing emotions is like trying to hold a beach ball underwater. Eventually, it will come up with a vengeance.
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Mona & The Sol TV Team ❤️
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